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FAQ
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Is there a common denominator in
personalities of missing persons? 
We should bare in mind that some people don't go missing by choice, but
disappear as a result of actions of others. Basically, a person
deciding to disappear, does so due to poor mental condition, something
resembling depression. Some even choose to disappear as an
alternative to suicide. Sometimes, they are in grave financial state, so they
want to disappear from public eye, to "leap in time". They can open a new
chapter in life later on, but from a different location.
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Can overbearing relationships cause
disappearance?
Possibly. Sometimes it is precisely those people that cannot bear
to be separated from their parents for ten minutes, who will disappear for a
long period.
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Do families idealize the missing person?
Yes, just like idealizing someone who has passed away. Families
immediately feel a sense of guilt. They try to understand
where they went wrong. Since one cannot live with the unbearable
feeling of guilt for years, they solve this by praising and glorifying the
missing person. As if "here, I commend him, which means I love him, and
if I love him I did not cause him to disappear".
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Is there a grieving process?
Of course, but it is combined with uncertainty, which on the one hand,
makes feelings even more difficult, and on the other, creates an opening for
hope and fantasies. The process of acceptance of loss is much harder as
there is no body, and no grave to visit.
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What about the obsession of searching?
Such obsession indicates feelings of guilt. People searching
for many years, are people who are stuck. They have adopted a
certain path, which leads them nowhere. The only thing that "keeps
them going", encourages them, are feelings of guilt.
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Why do thoughts of the family tend
towards self-accusation?
It is very natural. In our daily life, we all know that when we
slam a door, we want to tell someone he was wrong, or when we go out and
disappear for two hours, we do it so the other party will worry a bit. Hence,
if someone dear to us disappears, we immediately think he wanted to tell us
something by doing it. We don't really know if his disappearance
was by choice or not.
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When
do people turn to fortunetellers? 
This is usually done out of desperation. People want to
feel as though they did everything possible, that they didn't leave any stone
unturned. Usually this misleads the search teams and leads them to
far, misguided places.
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A fight with a teenager
Last night, our 14-year-old son stormed out of the house after a heated
argument between him and us about school. He left without any
money or his mobile phone and didn't return home all night. We called all
his friends and relatives, but could not find him. What should
we do?
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Old age
My father, a 75-year-old man, left home this morning and disappeared
without a trace. He has a Philippine nursemaid with him during the day, who
said he must have gone out while she was cleaning the house. Several hours
have passed and he has not returned yet. We looked for him all
over the area, but did not find him. What should we do?
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Business
Our business partner did not come to work and has not contacted the
office. We called his wife to ask her about it, but she claimed
he left their house that morning as usual. He had no meetings
scheduled and his mobile phone is unavailable. Additionally, he
has not contacted his wife or us. What should we do?
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Backpackers' trip
Our son is on a backpackers' trip overseas. He usually contacts us once
a week, but it has been eleven days since we last received a phone call or
e-mail from him. In our last conversation, he didn't mention he was leaving for
a trip that might take a few days. What should we do?
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Adolescence
We have an adolescent daughter who met an older guy and they started
dating. We forbade her from seeing him, and after a heated argument she left
the house and didn't return all night. We looked for her at
friends' and family relatives, but did not find her. What should we do?
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Marriage
I had a fight with my husband and he stormed out of the house in the
early hours of the morning. It has been 10 hours since, he is unavailable on
his mobile phone, he is not at work and has not contacted home. What should I
do?
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